I have been in a relationship for nearly four years. 1 week ago my world was turned upside down when my partner got a call that he HIV positive. It was only then that he told me he cheated on me 3 months prior. I wish he had told me when it happened because I would have informed him on PEP, which is like Plan B for HIV.

HIV testing

I tested the day after he told me which was 28 days after our last unprotected encounter. My test was negative, but 5 days later I have developed flu like symptoms. Congestion, runny nose, sore throat and body aches. I am going to retest in the coming weeks, but I’m terrified because I already have autoimmune Neutropenia. My immune cells are already so low this could potentially send me into AIDS easily.

Can I stay in this relationship?

I have tried to be supportive of him since he made a terrible mistake, but I don’t know if I can stay in a relationship with him since he completely disregarded me.

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