Betrayal

By Brokenhearted

1 min read

I have been in a relationship for nearly four years. 1 week ago my world was turned upside down when my partner got a call that he HIV positive. It was only then that he told me he cheated on me 3 months prior. I wish he had told me when it happened because I would have informed him on PEP, which is like Plan B for HIV.

HIV testing

I tested the day after he told me which was 28 days after our last unprotected encounter. My test was negative, but 5 days later I have developed flu like symptoms. Congestion, runny nose, sore throat and body aches. I am going to retest in the coming weeks, but I’m terrified because I already have autoimmune Neutropenia. My immune cells are already so low this could potentially send me into AIDS easily.

Can I stay in this relationship?

I have tried to be supportive of him since he made a terrible mistake, but I don’t know if I can stay in a relationship with him since he completely disregarded me.

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Khafre Kujichagulia Abif Moderator
Alafia (Peace) <inline-mention username="Brokenhearted" user-id="4600052"/>, We appreciate you feeling comfortable enough to reach out to us. I am sorry that you are experiencing this potential life changing circumstance. It seems like you have a great deal of knowledge about HIV, PEP and the other tools. We can't be sure that you have seroconverted from the current symptoms you are experiencing. We are glad that you understand the window period and that you will get tested again. Stay strong and please stay in touch with us. We are here for you. Khafre (H-I-V.net Team Member)
caseyh Community Admin
Hi <inline-mention username="Brokenhearted" user-id="4600052"/> (what a perfect username to describe the situation). Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this story with our community. Like my teammate, Khafre said, I am so truly sorry that this happened. I can understand why you are scared and hurt, and you have every right to be. Please do keep us updated if you're able, and know that regardless of the outcome, we're here for you. Sending warmest wishes and hugs your way. -Casey (Team Member)
Khafre Kujichagulia Abif Moderator
Alafia (Peace) <inline-mention username="Brokenhearted" user-id="4600052"/> I am so sorry to hear about your experience. It may be difficult to forgive but you two have invested four years. There is more than something there. You all have a solid foundation. Khafre (H-I-V.net Team Member)
MWarrior Member
I will pray 🙏 for you, it s horrible feelings being HIV person specially being cheated and have zero responsibility to catch it. It s so irritating and I know perfect how it goes but there is a hope, you might catch or not. In all cases prepare yourself to worest senario. Wishing you luck est luck in earth in this difficulte time
1. Khafre Kujichagulia Abif Moderator
 <inline-mention username="MWarrior" user-id="6221616"/> Alafia (Peace) We really appreciate you taking the time to reach out and share positive thoughts with our members. It's especially appreciated because we know you have a lot going on in your life. Thank you. Khafre (H-I-V.net Team Member)

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