I have been in a relationship with someone who knew me years prior to my positive diagnosis. I was diagnosed February 2020, nearly in tandem with the COVID-19 pandemic. I was able to process my feelings alone and break things off with the ex who transmitted to me and I have remained undetectable since I began medication March’20. I was hesitant to date again but since I have known the man I am dating now, a new relationship transpired. In this new relationship we began using condoms but I never really kicked off the conversation of why I felt comfortable with condoms or if we would stop using condoms at some point due to my uncomfortably with my diagnosis. He has brought it to my attention more than once and I never want to seem dismissive but my response has been roughly the same: “I feel comfortable using condoms and I haven’t felt ready to share my story, but you are safe and there’s no reason why we need to use condoms”. All very true, especially since I am undetectable and have had the conversation of disclosing with my provider. As our relationship has deepened, we have been sexually active together for 8 months, the question has been raised again. His stance “we should of had a conversation sooner, if I am not at risk then I don’t want/need to know now”. I still want to disclose as I think of our future together: living together, marriage , starting a family but fear the rejection and the “dishonesty” he could feel from disclosing months into our relationship. I am still working on my own acceptance of my status and am unsure how educated he is on HIV. Thoughts/advice/ words of wisdom?