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HIV Exposure Please Help

Hi, so 10 days ago I had sex with a female massage therapist, Vaginal sex where the condom came off at the end, apx 4 thrusts were unprotected and mutal oral sex with each other.

2-3 days later I'm feeling flu like symptoms, hot flashes where my temperture would spike. Not sure how high but my normal temp has been in the 98F range. I also had a chalky white mouth feeling and some white spots in my mouth, stiff neck, and red pimple type dots on my torso on day 5. by Day 9 they cover more of my torso and alot of my back.

On day 9 I broke out into a sweat while walking around. And after that all my symptoms went away. Just like a light switch pretty much.

Are these symptoms indicative of HIV and ARS?

If condoms are used properly how much do they reduce HIV risk?

Can symptoms start and stop just like that?

  1. I also did have some abdominal pain from day 3 and diarrhea from day 5-6.

    Please and thank you for any and all your input.

    1. Hi . It is understandable that these symptoms are concerning. I need to note that we are not medical professionals and, as every situation is different, cannot provide diagnostic advice. I do want to share with you this article from our editorial team on HIV transmission risks: https://h-i-v.net/transmission-risks. You will note that the estimated risk for insertive penile-vaginal intercourse is 0.04 percent. Of course, individual circumstances, such as condom usage can impact the risk. concerning the symptoms, this article discusses seroconversion: https://h-i-v.net/symptoms/early-stage. I also want to note that most medical sites state that seroconversion occurs within one to two weeks (see here for example: https://www.aidsmap.com/about-hiv/what-are-symptoms-seroconversion). This site states that "there are no symptoms of having acquired HIV only two days after a possible exposure:" https://www.thebody.com/article/can-you-get-hiv-symptoms-in-the-two-to-three-days-. A doctor should be able to go into further detail and, of course, the only way to be sure is HIV testing. This article discusses the types of tests and the window periods for testing: https://h-i-v.net/test-types. Hope this information helps. Best, Richard (Team Member)

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