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What do I do when I'm being attacked or discriminated against?

I’m a heterosexual male and contracted the disease and now I feel like I’m being penalized for having it and not disclosing it to people. She threatening me about jail. What should I do?

  1. Alafia (Peace) I recognize that you are in a difficult situation. She can't report you because you disclosed to her. I suggest you have a discussion about why you are not willing to disclose your status to people who you are not in a relationship with. Good luck. Khafre ( Team Member)

    1. I really appreciate you reaching out seriously. She talks so bad to me about it and wishes death upon me and all. Smh. But yet I’ll always stand 10 toes down 🙏🏿

    2. Alafia (Peace) Its no problem. That's what we are here for. We all hope you are able to find peace. Please stay connected to us. Khafre ( Team Member)

  2. Alafia (Peace) I want to take the time to reach out to you to see if things have gotten any better. Living under that kind of stress can be devasting. We hope thar you are doing what's needed to care for yourself. Khafre ( Team Member)

    1. Hi What a huge violation of your trust to disclose your status to others without your permission. I hope you have found a good lawyer who can help you wade through this. Maybe there is a legal way to stop her from disclosing your diagnosis to more people. I wish you didn't have to go through this. Gentle hugs. - Lori (Team Member)

    2. Alafia (Peace) I definitely understand where you are coming from. She sounds so angry and spiteful. I am guessing that speaking with her about that behavior is out of the question? Hold on and keep your head held high. I am here whenever you want to vent. Khafre ( Team Member)

  3. It's necessary to ask, did you have sex with her after you were diagnosed? Because if you haven't, it would be much harder to prove that you knowingly transmitted HIV to her, assuming she also tests positive.
    But it really depends on which US state you're in; many states have decriminalized HIV, but many others have not. If you think she's serious about asking for charges to be filed, you may want to retain an attorney. People have been tried, convicted, and sent to prison over this.

    Also, an attorney may be able to help with her telling third parties your HIV status. I am not sure it is actionable, but I am not an attorney, which is why I'm advising talking about your circumstances with one.

    1. no she does not have it. Just me. She got tested at least 5-6 times.

  4. Ive had people run up on me, shoot at me, send threats , she still messages me here and there still through the kids phone, wishes death upon, I'm already on probation due to her, she has me on protective order and still contacts me here and there. I dont know how I'm even able to keep going in life, she told my kids about everything as well. It's like the system just let her do whatever and I'm just supposed to sit there and take all verbal abuse and threats and bullying about my status. Honestly, if I did transmit it to her, alot of this I would totally understand but she doesn't, nobody does because I handled my situation and got it together before I did anything

    1. thank you for the support, I really appreciate it. I ha e a case worker I have been trying to get in contact with but schedule wise hasn't been working. And I was just going to go from there on what the case worker could lead me to. I was also wondering if anyone knew any type of lawyers who are experienced with clients who have hiv

    2. I would start by going to this website and putting in your location. It may direct you to organizations that can get you in touch with lawyers - - Liz (Team Member)

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