I'm still with the person who gave me h.i.v
My boyfriend of 5 years is the one I got h.i.v from 5 years ago . I decided to forgive him because he didn't know he had it. For the most part we deal with this disease together kinda. When we fight he says he isn't responsible for me getting h.iv from him. But he had never told me he had been with men . I know I have part in catching it but how do I not hate him for throwing it off like he didn't give me this disease . It's hard to not resent him . Idk if I'm the toxic one from resentment or him . For now not taking owner ship he gave it to me .yes I chose not to use protection but still idk if I should just go my own way
Hi
. I wish I had some magic answer. I want to note that we are not health professionals, physical or mental, but I do want to share this article from our patient leader Davina on accountability, stigma, and resentment: https://h-i-v.net/living/sexual-responsibility. A good question is who does resentment hurt (I suspect it helps no one)? I can't say if you should stay in your relationship - if you can move on/past resentment in your current situation. I want to also share with you this page on general mental health resources: https://h-i-v.net/mental-health/general-resources. Perhaps finding someone you can trust to discuss your feelings and relationship will help you get to a place to take the best possible care of you. Wishing you the best and please know that this community is here for you. Richard (Team Member) thank you so much your response and feedback was very helpful I appreciate you for taking the time thank u so much omg thank you I followed your link and realized I follow that person on Instagram . Thank you so much again
The guy I got it from I was with for 3 years. I have no idea where he got it, I was diagnosed years after we broke up. If you believe he didn't know he had it before you guys tested positive resenting him isn't fair to him. He did not not have to get it from a male, men can get HIV from sex with an HIV positive female.
your absolutely right! It's just the odds of that are real low and he didn't get it from a female . He came clean about sexual encounters with men. If he'd a been honest and told me he had been with men as well I probably would of passed up dating him. Which now I'm glad I didn't .and now I have much more of a understanding why some men have sex with men .not always does that mean there gay/ bi . And for the most part I do forgive it's just when we argue and he says some rude stuff. But reality is I caught it just the same way he did. Not being careful .thank you for replying .I do appreciate all feed back
