Hi James,
This story resonates so much with me, and I have encountered the feelings that have come with a positive HIV test. As someone who went through a rough time with my diagnosis, I can understand the WANT . ..and the NEED
Sometimes when we open ourselves up to what the internet might have to say, we open doors that will keep up worrying, confused and hurt.
In these times, I hope I can offer some words of advice. Firstly, try to stay away from googling; although it may help cure our curiosity, it was one of the things that made me more anxious and nervous. I found all types of horror stories and did not understand the advancements the community has made through these. I suggest
If you must google (because it's very tempting), try to read articles on the successes that long term advocates have had in helping change, and the successes they have had, despite with living with HIV long-term. I think you will find that many people are living a long healthy life with HIV, with the assistance and help of modern medicine (and support).
It's hard to say how your body has taken to HIV. It's quite possible that the night sweats, and severe fatigue could have been your body fighting off the virus from progressing. And it is also possible that the later may have happened to. However, wherever your body is at in terms of how far the virus has progressed -- your doctor will be able to do blood testing to find out and can suggest ways to improve your conditions. In reality, there is no timeline, no exact indicator or no definite of progression of the virus besides to do testing and speak with your HCP.
Luckily, you have come to an amazing place. On H-I-V.net, we have many people who are living with HIV (myself included), who have had hard times, and who have been in similar situations to yourself.