I am glad you asked because it can be so stressful dealing with these questions and it also gives me a chance to clear up some misinformation that is out there about how HIV is transmitted.
It sounds like you are concerned about your hand first coming into contact with someone who may or may not have had contact with someone living with HIV previously, and then later your hand coming into contact with your genitals and mouth.
First, we must remember there is a lot of misinformation about how HIV is transmitted. HIV is not expected to live for long at all, making environmental transmission outside the body virtually non-existent. This means HIV cannot be transmitted through contact with everyday surfaces- more about that here: https://h-i-v.net/myths-misconceptions. I hope this helps as you navigate these questions. That being said, it is recommended that everyone get tested for HIV at some point. Have you ever been tested? I am happy to provide you with information about it! Is there anything else we can do for you?
Take care,
Liz (Team Member)