I'm glad you reached out because I can tell from your writing that you're dealing with a lot of concern about yourself and the person you were with. First, about their medication. Medication compliance can be really hard for a lot of reasons, and it can take time to find the right medication. I am not sure where this person is coming from, but I find this perspective helpful where one of our advocates shared, "I had no reason to feel these pains, no other illnesses or issues. I began to question the things that I was putting into my body including my medication."
In terms of your concerns for yourself, I am not a medical professional so can't determine your specific risk of transmission. I can provide information, like that the five fluids HIV can be transmitted through are breast milk, blood, precum, semen, and vaginal secretions, but not saliva. In the case of transmission through oral sex, the risk is at the lower end of the spectrum compared to unprotected vaginal or anal sex. You can definitely learn more about the specifics through this article: https://h-i-v.net/transmission. Given that you think precum may have entered your nose, I suggest you describe that to a testing professional who can help you determine your level of exposure.
Let us know how you are doing, and if there is anything else I can provide. Thanks for reaching out.
- Liz (Team Member)