unprotected oral sex
Recently, I had unprotected oral sex with my boyfriend (I sucked on his penis). He claims he is clean, yet he has a sordid past ( i realized he sleept around alot). the session consisted of two blowjobs, both times he came in my mouth and I immediately spit it out, i didn't have any cuts or sores, and i had brushed my teeth at least 2 hours before the encounter. I am terrified of the thought of catching HIV form that interaction. The encounter was 3 weeks ago. How soon can I get tested for it to be conclusive, and what are the chances of getting HIV. Also, I cannot tell my family, they would be very disappointed, so any support is appreaciated.
I'm glad you reached out because I can tell from your writing that you're dealing with a lot of fear and it can be hard not having answers. Also, it gives me a chance to clear up misinformation about HIV transmission that is out there that can feed into this worry, and may be helpful to others.
Has anyone else out there experienced a situation like this, and able to offer some support?
HIV can be transmitted through five bodily fluids including breast milk, blood, precum, semen, and vaginal secretions. It cannot be transmitted through saliva, and in the case of transmission through oral sex, the risk is at the lower end of the spectrum compared to unprotected vaginal or anal sex. You can definitely learn more about the specifics which may ease your mind through this article: https://h-i-v.net/transmission .
That being said, testing for HIV and other STDs should be a part of anyone's regular health care. In fact, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in the United States encourages all individuals between the ages of 13 and 64 to have at least one HIV test as part of their normal care. Here's a testing quiz with more info: https://h-i-v.net/living/testing-quiz
Does this give you a good start? Let us know how it goes and if you need anything else. I am so grateful you asked and started this conversation. - Liz (Team Member)
Alafia (Peace)
I wanted to follow up with you regarding your concerns. Have you had the opportunity to seek testing? I know provided you with some great resources. Please remember that we are here to support you. Please reach back out to let us know how you are doing. Khafre (H-I-V.net Team Member)
