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I had two separate encounters with an individual. First time was his fingers inserted with lube anally and a dildo with a condom on it. I had also given him a hand job using only my saliva and hand. The next time I hand latex gloves and really didn't plan on anything more than stroking him, with the glove. I think he had wetness on his tip. He was not circumcised so I don't know if the wetness is only precum or what. I probably got it on the glove as I stroked him. So then he proceeded to put on a condom. It didn't occur to me until it was too late. Using the contaminated glove, I had stroked him after he put the condom on. I then gave oral and receptive anal. I am pretty sure it was the same condom for both acts. A little over three weeks later and I am sick and scared to death.

The illness started as a diverticulitis flare up with a low grade fever that subsided. The next week, hay fever intermitent low grade fever with stuffy nose and posted nasal drip. A single mouth ulcer on my tongue that healed quickly. I thought post nasal drip was causing my sore throat. Sore lymph nodes in neck and chest. Periodically have a burning sensation on different areas of my body. Urine dribble, testicle pain and discomfort in the perineum. Fever seems to have subsided but have lingering sinusitis symptoms.

I had a 4th gen rapid Hiv test at 25 days which was negative. Also an oral swab for gonorrhea and clamydia which were negative. An anal swab for the following: Chlamydia trachomatis Negative (Negative)
Mycoplasma GenitaliumNegative (Negative)
Mycoplasma hominisNegative (Negative)
Neisseria gonorrhoeaeNegative (Negative)
Trichomonas vaginalisNegative (Negative)
Ureaplasma parvumNegative (Negative)
Ureaplasma urealyticum

I am worried about the follow-up hiv test.
Am I worrying needlessly? Any thoughts?

  1. Hi . It is understandable that you are nervous, but it is important to keep in mind that it is a good sign that you have negative results for all of these tests. I want to share with you this article from our editorial team on different transmission risks: https://h-i-v.net/transmission-risks. You will note that all of the estimated risks assume HIV exposure occurred during the act. The use of a condom can make quite a difference and you don't actually know if there was any contamination and any fluids on the condom were exposed to the air. Of course, these are only estimates and individual circumstances can make a difference. The only way to be certain is testing, which you have been vigilant about. Hope this information is helpful. Best, Richard (Team Member)

    1. Hi - I had an exposure 10 week ago with exactly the same symptoms as you described here. I have sore throat that I am hoping is caused by post nasal drip. Also, have have unilateral lymphadenopathy on neck. Not prominent. I did a 4th gen hiv test at 6 weeks, 8, weeks, and 66 days. All came back negative. However, these symptoms still persists. I am in the same boat.

      Hi - would you consider a 4th gen test at 66 days conclusive? I am worried sick! I went to see an ID doctor and she insists on 3 months and then 6 months. Any insight would be appreciated!

      Thank you!

      1. Hi . Your concerns are certainly understandable, especially with being asked to return for confirmation tests. I need to note that we are not medical professionals and, for your safety, cannot provide medical or diagnostic advice. I do want to share with you this previous Forum test accuracy where Liz links to an article that lays out the accuracy of 4th Generation tests. In addition, this article notes that "4th generation tests will pick up 99% of infections at six week:" https://i-base.info/guides/testing/test-accuracy-results-and-further-testing. I can't speak to any specific reason your doctor want confirmation tests, but it could just be out of an abundance of caution. Wishing you the best. Richard (Team Member)

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